Autumn 2017 issue: Tantra with You, With a Friend, With a Lover

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Hand Covering Flowers at the Garden with Sunlight

By Dawn Cartwright

Whether you’re just hearing about Tantra for the first time or have been practising for years, it can be challenging to find simple practices that deliver all the intimacy and ecstasy Tantra promises in just a few minutes a day. These three practices do just that. They’re practices that unlock positive energy pathways in your body and relationships. Each is meant to be practised 5-10 minutes a day for 21 days. Three short weeks to greater intimacy and pleasure. Can’t beat that. You may wish to create a relaxing, sensual environment for each practice. However, don’t let that slow you down. I encourage you to start now. Yes, now, this very minute. A life of ecstasy awaits you.

Your Essence as Light Rays. Tantra Meditation for Solo Practice

Consider your essence as light rays from centre to centre up the vertebrae, and so rises “livingness” in you.

The Vigyan Bhairav Tantra. Sutra 70

Begin standing. Your body is open and soft, feet are parallel. Let go of the tension in your pelvis and legs, the way you’d feel just before jumping up into the air – isn’t that amazing? Next, place your hands on your lower abdomen, just beneath the navel and breathe into this space. Notice your spine moves naturally with the breathe, undulating up and down. Relax your spine so that it’s able to undulate freely. Press firmly into the ground with your feet as you exhale to give a feeling of strength and stability.

Expand your breathing 1-2 seconds, inhaling slightly longer without straining, exhaling slightly emptier. Continue like this 5-8 minutes. You’ll discover a subtle intensity building inside you, filling you with ecstasy.

Silent Harmony. Tantra Meditation for Practice with a Friend

Intone a sound audibly, then less and less audibly as feeling deepens into this silent harmony.

The Vigyan Bhairav Tantra. Sutra 42

Sit or stand facing your friend. Close your eyes.  Then, begin to hum.  You’ll hum loud enough for your friend to hear you. You’ll send the humming down into your body so that you feel the vibrations in every part of you.

At a certain point, the humming will take over and you’ll suddenly feel more energised, awake and playful.

After 3-5 minutes, hum more and more softly until the humming becomes stillness. In the silence, breathe into the sensations created by the vibration of the humming for a minute, then open your eyes. Invite your friend to do the same.

Smile.

Give one another a warm, supportive hug. Breathe softly into your navel and relax into your connection for 20 seconds.

Give your friend a strong squeeze and let them go. Experience the silent harmony.

The Fire in the Beginning. Tantra for Practice with a Lover

At the start of sexual union keep attentive on the fire in the beginning, And so continuing, avoid the embers in the end.

The Vigyan Bhairav Tantra. Sutra 48

Create a space for your practice in your bedroom or on a sheepskin spread on the forest floor. Take the time to feed all your senses with colours, textures, fragrances, sounds and flavours. Make sure there are plenty of pillows and blankets for comfort.

Invite your lover to sit facing you. Take a moment or two to settle into your bodies and the space you have created. Enjoy the sensual items you have prepared.

When you feel ready, place your hands on your knees and begin to circle your rib cage above your hips. Let your head, neck and spine follow the movements. Your lover will do the same. Relax and let go.
Your breathing will naturally deepen. Let your movements create an awareness of space inside your body. Feel your love and attraction. The spiralling movements will intensify these feelings, making them stronger. Circle in one direction 1-2 minutes, then change directions.

After 3-5 minutes, you’ll open your eyes and slowly move into an embrace, sitting with your legs wrapped around one another. Spiral gently together in your embrace, breathing in sync as sensations of love and attraction fill your bodies, merging you together as one.


Dawn Cartwright is a Tantric visionary, sacred writer, world traveler, and innovator  in bio-energetic Tantra fusion. Dawn will offer: Sacred Sexuality. How We Love. 6 Nights of Tantric Bliss, October 6th – 12th and Fragrance of the Lotus Tantra Teacher Training 2018 in Wicklow. To book your place, go to: dawncartwright.com

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