The Waiting Place
By Dee Wallace
Dr. Seuss writes about the “waiting place” – the place where everyone is just…waiting. Waiting for the phone to ring, or another chance, or SOMEthing that will take them to what they want. And that is the biggest challenge for those of us that were taught it wasn’t ok to ask. Some of us learned that we didn’t really want what we were asking for or that we didn’t deserve it so just don’t ask in the first place, etc.. We learned that it was safer and more acceptable, to say, “I don’t know.” That turned into the BELIEF, “I don’t know.” We are actually ‘not knowing’, so we can stay safe and accepted.
But we also know that the very first step in the creation process is CHOICE. We have to choose what we want to create. And to do that, we have to know what we want. We have to know it, state it, and unconditionally commit to it. All those voices of the past that said, “No. You don’t really want that.”, must be replaced with our own, grown up voice that says “Hell yes, I do!”
And I deserve it.
And I am the force that creates it.
And I give myself permission to have it.
The vital thing about knowing what you want is to never go to the “but” place after you state it. For example, “I want to leave my husband BUT I have no way to support myself.” The thing you want is to leave. Acknowledge that. Commit to that. Then, you start allowing ideas to form so you can create what you want. Maybe you have to start training for a career, or restart a former one, or seek help from family. If you let yourself proceed to the “but” – it automatically discounts what the “want” is.
Maybe you want more money. “I want more money BUT….” Those are the excuses and limitations that keep you disempowered in the creation of that want. They are the “outs” you give yourself to not take action toward your “want”. The “buts” are what allow us to THINK we are working towards a goal when actually we are thinking about it without commitment – sometimes for a lifetime. Thinking and hoping does not create, BUT it certainly tricks you into thinking you are.
Write out your wants and commit to them. Ask yourself what action you can take today to begin. Do it. Daydream and feel into already having that thing. Stay focused. Want the want so badly that you must give yourself the want. Passionately. Completely. Divinely.
You are the masters of your fate: are you mastering “buts” or accomplishments? Go get ’em, guys.
Dee Wallace has worked as an author, teacher, dancer and actress in film, television and the stage for over 30 years (E.T., Cujo, The Howling). Her book, Bright Light, tells that tale, and shares the spiritual lessons she has learned from a life in acting.