Comedian / Comedy Coach
Once upon a time, I worked in an investment bank, lived in a nice apartment, owned an investment property, a trading account and about 100 ties. I quit, and managed to lose all my savings and the property. I came home and decided to become a comedian, which pays with the sound of laughter. At first, it was really difficult being broke, it hurt my ego so much that I often got defensive with people over very little things. After sometime, I accepted my new position in life and started to really enjoy it. I realised I am not “Aidan, the banker” or even “Aidan, the comedian,” I am simply Aidan. I now am doing exactly what I want in life and love it. I help people stand on stage for the first time and release their inner funniness… I still have the ties.
This year, I let go of a relationship, knowing that holding on would only prolong the inevitable heartbreak from this beautiful guy. Yet, I believe no meetings are accidental. In relationships, sometimes we’re drawn together to heal past wounds in order for maximum opportunity for mutual growth. We were in each others lives to help us see where we most needed healing and in order to help us heal. Things have to come up in order to be released and, sometimes, we can’t do this work on are own. From my experience of releasing and letting him go, I awakened to my truth of Love. He was my greatest teacher. He highlighted to me the healing I needed in order to know and let go of the old wounds which kept me from opening to the deepest, pure Love within me.
This break up was my greatest lesson and blessing.
You were born in 2000. I saw you first. You were the biggest in the hospital. I saw you grow and begin to marvel at the world around you. I encouraged your curiosity and answered all your why’s, always, until those why’s came full circle. I saw you welcome your sister into the world in 2002. Your huge and generous heart did not know jealousy and you loved her and have always watched over her, like a guardian. Yes, an angel. I nurtured your generosity, encouraged your laughter, tickled your curiosity, taught you respect for yourself and others. And I hadn’t finished. I haven’t finished. But I have had to let go. How does it feel? Well, it doesn’t erase the pain, but it does let in life, love, hope, enthusiasm and so much more. When I was holding on, I couldn’t let anything else in. I was dead to the world, paused in pain. Not anymore.
Kindergarten Music Teacher
In a relationship with someone in my life, when I let go of the desire for a particular outcome or relationship definition, it allowed me to open up to what was actually happening in each moment, and became a deeper, far more enriching experience, and one that is full of learning. This just happened as a result of my awareness that, by having these thoughts, my insane mind was thinking it could have some control of the situation! What a waste of time! At other times, letting go has been about giving up the effort to be in charge of my life and trusting my instinct (or just what’s happening) instead. I think spirit is felt as a presence in our lives when we are not blocking it with need or expectation, and the reward we get is that lovely feeling of connection.
In a cafe recently, waiting on food to go. There’s a gorgeous girl in the corner and when I look over, she smiles. When I look again, she pats the seat beside her, so, I go over. She seems like a nice girl, very confident, very forward. She says, “If you take my number, make sure you ring. I’ll be embarrassed if you don’t.” I promise I will, so, the next day, I ring. She doesn’t answer.
Time to let it go. So, what do I do to support the little pangs of rejection coming up? I don’t indulge the thoughts. Every time one comes up, I acknowledge it, breath, then I let it off. Eventually, the girl is a memory that has no hurtful content for me to whack my self with.
If you know it’s not ok for you, let it pass, it all passes. Over time we get to let go of all of it.
Mother, Reiki Practitioner, Nurse
Between dancing, laughing, meditation and time in nature, there are many ways I let go and release emotions. However, these can feel like transient releases and when they are over I can often feel tension returning. At the moment, I am working on letting go of the high standards I set for myself in life. I sometimes get a comical image of myself being a juggler of many balls, each representing different areas in which I strive for perfection. I find the effort this takes to be very tiring. I am practicing being “good enough” and letting go of this “strive for perfection”. The ironic thing is, as I surrender and release my fears of letting go of these expectations, it’ll become easier to keep the balls of life going… Ah, relief.