In our Autumn 2020 issue, we were honoured to feature a beautiful article on wisdom, letting go, and the gifts of our ancestors by Karolina Banaszkiewicz. Read on to enjoy her wonderful words.
The Splendour of Surrender
By Sandy C. Newbigging
Living from the wisdom within.
Surrender sits at the heart of meditation. By surrender I’m not referring to waving a white flag or giving up, but the ability to let go. It is only in being willing to let go of your pre-conceived ideas about how your mind, body and life should be, that you can fully embrace the joy and grace that continuously flows through every moment.
Let the loving hand of the universe guide you.
1. Go with the flow
Creation is occurring in its awe-inspiring glory right now. To resist life is to push away magic and miracles. Everything happens to help you to wake up, learn to love unconditionally and live your purpose. Trying to make life look how you think it should is the equivalent of trying to squeeze the universe through the eye of a needle. The universe we play in is abundant. It is trying to give you everything. Always. There isn’t a moment when what you need isn’t given to you freely. Yet, if you continue to hold onto the mind, you can only get, at best, your beliefs about what you think is possible.
Remain open to abundance by living with an accepting heart surrendered to whatever the moment brings. Be willing to receive a helping hand from the universe in ways you least expect. Be open to and expectant of unforeseen miracles.
2. From concepts to consciousness
Care less about gathering concepts and ideas and focus your attention on being consciously aware. Without learning how to be in the ‘here and now’, no new ideas will be useful because you will remain one-step removed from life. An attitude of active calm moves you from possessing knowledge to living with wisdom.
3. Live the meditation teachings and internalise the techniques
Within you is supreme consciousness, full of light, love and enlightenment. It’s yours to experience. All that’s required to inherit its riches is your attention. The more you let go, the more you will find the fullness of still, silent space.
4. Surrender to what is
Without letting this moment be, as it is, your mind will continue to be busy. Any resistance causes the mind to become highly active and remain at the forefront of your attention. Make being calm more important than being right and make peace more important than things going to plan. If something unexpected or ‘bad’ happens, gracefully deal with it without any rejection of reality. Wishing things hadn’t happened only attaches you to a past that cannot be changed. Pushing back at life tires you out and puts your peace and prosperity on hold.
5. Resistance = Stress + Struggle
Surrender = Serenity + Success
Resisting reality doesn’t change reality. It only makes you stressed and causes you unnecessary suffering. Why reject life? Isn’t it more appealing to surrender to what is, let things be, as they are, and with a calm mind and courageous heart, take whatever action is required? You can resist what is or you can let it be, as it is.
Surrender is by far the best strategy if serenity and success is what you genuinely want. Allowing reality to show up in all its glorious and unexpected ways is so much fun. You have front row seats at this phenomenal thing called ‘your life’. Surrender to what is and I guarantee that you will enjoy the boundless benefits of meditation and see with your own awakened eyes that the secret to success is stillness.
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Sandy is the creator of the Mind Detox and Mind Calm methods of therapy and meditation. His no.1 best selling book ‘THUNK! How to Think Less for Serenity and Success’ is available on amazon.
The wisdom of your heart is always challenging you to be true to your self. It is an inner guide that encourages you to change anything about your life that’s at odds with the flow of your well-being. But knowing how to listen to, and trust, this inner wisdom is one of life’s great challenges. The wisdom of your heart is present at all times. It whispers and sings to you. That doesn’t mean you’re listening, though. The heart sings your misery as well as your joy. This evening is about listening to the heart’s wisdom and engaging with it for transformation.
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by Sally Carr
Your heart is calling you! Your heart is your spirit’s essence. It is yearning to be in deep, loving, supportive relationship with you. Your heart wants, through this relationship to bring your dreams into reality. Are you answering this call? In the best of times, it is all too easy to direct our attention and power on the external circumstances of life. And now, in this time of economic uncertainty it is even more tempting to let our fear prevail and to keep our focus on things outside of ourselves. So now, especially, is the time to focus inward.
For years, many of us have lived believing that success is an uphill battle to be waged by the sheer force of our will and effort. We have been convinced that we need to do the right thing and be the right kind of person. We have been caught in a perpetual cycle of obsessive thinking and compulsive doing.
Perhaps our parents and teachers, with only good intentions, motivated us through criticism, judgment and blame. In an attempt to ensure our survival, they taught us to examine what seemed wrong with us and then challenged us to work hard to correct those faults. If something couldn’t be changed, we were then encouraged to blame other people or circumstances. If a substantial amount of our inner dialogue is harsh, critical or blaming, we have probably internalized this survival strategy.
This strategy, when successful, typically results in feelings of achievement in one area of life but is often offset by exhaustion and dissatisfaction or feelings of inadequacy in other areas. Often the success is difficult to maintain because it requires us to work against our natural tendencies and qualities. We can feel like we are caught in a rip tide swimming against the current rather than relaxing into a natural flow.
What if it were possible to adopt a strategy based on an inward appreciation for the gifts that you are? A strategy that focuses on what is right about you rather than one based on changing you. A strategy that encourages you to rely on your inner wisdom, experience and knowledge. When people incorporate this strategy into their lives, hard work feels inspired and joyful not exhausting and strained. The journey to success feels balanced and rewarding. Goals achieved fit into the puzzle of your life in ways that enhance it all.
In my own life and in my coaching work I have found that when people answer the call of their heart they focus on cultivating a relationship with a wise mentor within; one who I call their Inner Confidant. Life becomes simpler and more graceful for them. Surviving transforms into thriving.
In order to do this, imagine that you are always accompanied by a being that guides, comforts and protects you. Perhaps yours would appear as a beloved aunt, a best friend, a knight in shining armour, an angel, Jesus or another religious figure. You see the mentor in the form that appeals to you and brings you comfort. Your Inner Confidant is the expression of your Highest Self. You’ll know you’re in touch with your Inner Confidant when the messages you receive are kind, patient, accepting and loving. Any internal voice that leaves you feeling judged, criticized or inadequate is not your Inner Confidant.
Your wise Inner Confidant knows that the shortest path to success is to encourage you to begin with focusing inward. Its wisdom allows you to express yourself authentically and to take inspired action so that you may bring your gifts into the world. By allowing your Inner Confidant to lead you, you begin to quiet your mind and enlist it into the service of your highest good. There is a place in our lives for intellect, reason and action. When life is fuelled by the critical voice it becomes an effort but when it is energized by the heart it is pure joy.
Your Inner Confidant will partner with you to express your life in tangible ways. Perhaps you want to develop a healing practice, start a business, mend a relationship, paint, exercise, or create work-life balance. Turn to your Inner Confidant first and often. Allow the image of a kind and loving soul to come into your awareness. Imagine this Confidant sitting with you with complete tenderness and acceptance in his/her eyes. This being is the perfect partner for you with endless amounts of patience, knowledge and unlimited access to information, people and resources. The Inner Confidant’s entire purpose is to be in loving relationship with you and to experience the glory of who you are. Your Inner Confidant responds to you with total acceptance and delight. Anything you want is okay, even the improbable goal or the one you think you don’t deserve. Your Inner Confidant kindly embraces your desires, celebrating what you want and helps you bring it into existence.
There are no “shoulds” in your relationship with your Inner Confidant. Just begin by extending an invitation – a willingness to find that voice of love and tenderness inside of you. You can do this via prayer, mediation, journaling, or over a cup of tea. Breathe and just see that you are not alone but in the company of one who has always loved you. One who will always be there for you and will patiently wait until you are ready to work together.
Your Inner Confidant can help you know that the Universe is a loving force, that we are an essential part of this life energy and that through focusing inwardly we have access to all the wisdom, creativity and love we can receive. Living with this perspective can help transform our lives.
Cultivating a delightful, joyful and intimate relationship with your Inner Confidant is an enriching and enlivening way to support yourself and the world. You deserve it. So take heart, and transform surviving into thriving today.
Leadership Coach and Confidant
Sally works with individuals and businesses assisting them to thrive through inner focus and inspired action.