Our winter issue is out now. Regular contributor and trauma-Aware therapist Sandy Newbigging illuminates how we can recognise gaslighting in our lives and what to do about it. Dive on in to learn more…
Our summer issue is out now. Our parenting correspondent Anna Cole shares a touching story from her life on healing from trauma
Hema Vyas BSc (Hons) is one of London’s top psychologists, hypnotherapists and spiritual mentors. She comes from a long lineage of Vaidyas (ayurvedic doctors) and is a renowned speaker in the fields of human consciousness, spirituality, health, energy medicine and the science of Ayurveda. We are excited to be welcoming her to Positive Nights on Thursday September 19th, from 7.30 to 9.30 p.m. in the Central Hotel, 1-5 Exchequer Grafton Street, Dublin 2.
Hema has over 25 years of experience guiding individuals, groups and organisations. As a ‘seer’ in a modern context, Hema merges her profound intuition and extensive academic studies with a passion for Eastern and Western philosophies. Through her unique approach – a synthesis of psychological and spiritual insight, heart-based wisdom, Kundalini Yoga and meditation expertise – Hema empowers people to awaken their confidence and discover their true purpose. Hema is a certified teacher of Meditation, Kundalini Yoga and Ayurveda. She is also a Chopra Centre certified Primordial Sound Meditation instructor, an expert in Past Life Regression Therapy and a founder of the “Heart Realignment” healing system.
We will be exploring the fascinating topic of how our emotions can be used to positively impact our wellbeing during our evening together. We will specifically be talking about how to foster emotional wellbeing in the face of climate change and a rapidly altering world. Click here to book your tickets.
“I could listen to Hema talk forever” – Geraldine Barry, former VP, Amazon
“The best way to describe her is a finely tuned instrument, she has provided so many deep “golden truths” that I would have never even conceived of, that have realigned my purpose, improved relationships and business ventures radically” – Gabriel Bernardi
“I have seen the leading speakers in business and personal development and can safely say no one reads the room like Hema. I get something new each time. Her insights lead to significant performance improvement for the businesses I managed at The Guardian” – Tina El-hage, Strategist at UK Press Association
“She knows your thoughts before you do. She is a catalyst for transformation. Even 5 minutes with Hema will change your life” – Shridhar Aiyer
Hema Vyas BSc (Hons) is one of London’s top psychologists, hypnotherapists and spiritual mentors. She comes from a long lineage of Vaidyas (ayurvedic doctors) and is a renowned speaker in the fields of human consciousness, spirituality, health, energy medicine and the science of Ayurveda. We are excited to be welcoming her to Positive Nights on Thursday September 19th, from 7.30 to 9.30 p.m. in the Central Hotel, 1-5 Exchequer Street, Dublin 2.
In this sneak peek of the Positive Parenting article from our Spring issue, Anna Cole compassionately addresses the issue of parental guilt: an all-too-common emotion to those who always strive to do their best for the children in their care. You can read the full article by picking up a copy of the Spring issue, or subscribing to have it delivered straight to your door.
By Anna Cole
‘Guilty feet have got no rhythm.’
The longer I work with parents, and the longer I am a parent, the more I realise that we all feel truck-loads of guilt. We instinctively don’t want our children to get hurt. Ever. We ardently wish we could make a perfect life for them. But, unfortunately, we don’t have the power to protect our children from all the hurts we wish we could: the loss of a beloved family member that knocked you, and them, for six; the move you did for work and the dislocation on your child’s schooling; or perhaps you stayed put, but the class bully picked on your child; maybe you got sick and haven’t been able to be there as much as you’d like; perhaps violence or impoverishment in your neighbourhood has affected your child, or perhaps, like many of us, you’ve been through separation or divorce and worry about the impact of that on your child. You will be able to add to this list, I am sure.
So here’s the headline: it’s not possible to make our child’s life perfect. And the good news is: it’s also not necessary. Children come with a simple, elegant way of recovering from hurt, which I will discuss in our next issue. Right now I want to focus on what we as parents can do to help ourselves so we can best help our kids.
The first thing you need to know is that you have done your best. It’s not your fault things got hard, but it is your responsibility to do something about it. Take your regret to your Listening Partner (for more information on Listening Partnerships and how to find one, see the link in ‘resources’ below). In your Listening Partnership you can cry, tremble, shout and rage about the things you regret. Shed those tears. They are the rain that falls and makes the flowers so sweet in the spring. Share the dark thoughts you have, then leave them behind, and when you start feeling bad again, go back and have another Listening Partnership. You have the right to be pleased with yourself, and that’s what your child wants for you. They don’t want you feeling awful. They want you to play. They want you to be there with them, present and relaxed.
Dheai Ilsaaid is a general Oriental practitioner and author who has trained extensively in acupuncture, Reiki, massage, iridology, cranial sacral manipulation and many more healing methodologies. He treats children under the age of fifteen for free. Children must be accompanied by an adult at all times. The best way to contact him is to call him on 086 077 7700. I met with Dheai to discuss the differences between Eastern and Western forms of medical treatment, how he approaches his healing sessions, and his new book, ‘Oriental Medicine & Eastern Philosophy’.
by Aisling Cronin
If you are looking for a comprehensive guide to the fundamental concepts that inform Oriental healing practices, Dheai Ilsaaid’s book Oriental Medicine & Eastern Philosophy is one to read. Two of the most important concepts – Qi and Yin/Yang – are explained succinctly in the book. Dheai says, “Qi (Chi) is the life force of every living thing in the universe. Just as different cells have different functions in the body, so also are there different types of Qi, relating to the different organs and their functions. There is Yin Qi and Yang Qi.”
Of Yin and Yang, Dheai says, “Yin is the fluid aspect of everything. Its function in the human body is to cool and moisturise and nourish the cells and organs. Yang represents the warming and the pushing upwards activities, such as circulation. Hence, Yin needs Yang. Yin is fluid in nature, Yang is movement or energy.”
Dheai treats a wide range of both mental and physical ailments such as insomnia, depression, respiratory problems, epilepsy, arthritis, infertility, high blood pressure and diabetes. Dheai uses many techniques to assess his clients’ ailments, based on the philosophies of yin and yang and the five elements. These techniques include facial diagnosis, tongue diagnosis and pulse diagnosis. He may also recommend treatments for the subconscious mind, including neurolinguistic programming techniques, positive affirmations, mindfulness, meditation, dream interpretation and hypnosis.
Dheai believes in treating each client as an individual, rather than assuming that every person who comes to his clinic with a similar complaint must have an identical cause behind that complaint. During our conversation, he offered a simple example of three people coming to him with a headache. One client may have developed a headache because of suppressed anger, another could be dealing with suppressed jealousy, while the third client’s headache might be caused by a poor sleeping pattern.
Bearing this in mind, when Dheai diagnoses a client, he uses a range of indicators to determine their health issues, then selects the best treatment for that specific individual. These treatments can include nutritional advice, a course of acupuncture treatments, exercises to improve postural alignment, or specific types of physical movements that retrain the subconscious mind.
Dheai is enthusiastic and passionate about spreading his knowledge about health to as many people as possible. He treats children under the age of fifteen for free. Children must be accompanied by an adult guardian when they visit his clinic.
Dheai practices in Waterford, Templemore and Dublin. He also runs his own Private College of Acupuncture and Oriental Complementary Medicine. The best way to contact Dheai is to call him on 086 077 7700. His website is generalorientalpractitioner.
What is Kairos Therapy?
Kairos Therapy is a hands-on form of emotional and physical healing that uses the chi flowing between our hands to gently release blockages that we may hold in the biofield of our bodies. These blockages can arise as a result of anything from physical injury to tension to emotional hurt. And at the heart of Kairos is the belief that each one of us has the potential for healing and transformation. You will find that Kairos will help you relax and be more truly yourself. People are surprised to find themselves more able to speak up, make easier decisions, foster healthier relationships, clarify their aims, and further develop their spirituality.
What does a Kairos therapy session involve?
Each session is unique, so you may never experience the same sensations from one session to the next. At the start of the session, your therapist will check in with you to see how you are and will ask questions to guide her/him as to where to start working on your body.
As you lay comfortably, your therapist will place their hands gently on your fully clothed body and will move to a new position usually every few minutes.
Experiences during a Kairos session are many and varied but some include; warmth, tingles or other physical sensations, feeling emotions, going into a refreshing sleep, seeing images or colours, recalling memories, experiencing a very deep sense of relaxation or discovering a current problem being resolved.
At the end of the session you are invited to talk to your therapist about what happened in the session. You can share as little or as much as you need to.
Contact email@example.com for more information or to book a session.