Feng Shui expert and inspirational speaker Amanda Sophia (formerly known as Amanda Collins) is one of our amazing regular writers, and we love to read her wisdom in every issue. Check out her Spring 2020 article below!
Letting Go
Becoming one with the flux of life
by Amanda Sophia
The yin and yang of nature, the cycles of life, show up daily in our lives, for the one thing that is inevitable is change. Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is—whether this is a relationship, a job, a home or a way of being.
As you grow and evolve you discover more and more of what you want and do not want. If you are ready to bring new things and experiences into your life, you have to be willing to ask; what am I willing to let go of in order to make space for the new?
We truly possess the keys to our own prisons; to the rules and limits that we put on ourselves because of old stories we tell ourselves about not deserving happiness and fulfilment. Will you hold onto your old stories, or, will you learn lessons from them, let them go, and move on? By letting go of caring what others think, letting go of judgement, guilt and shame, you can free yourself. Imagine how much more energy you would have if you were free of, not bound by, the past.
To let go of past thinking, you must stop wishing that things could be the way they once were.
You must stop projecting into the future—believing you can’t ever be happy or you will only be happy when you lose weight, have the house, the car…
Begin letting go by noticing the small ways in which you let attachment create unhappiness in your life. When you choose to let go you choose to heal both yourself and your planet.
Try these tips and techniques that will help you with letting go:
• Realise you can’t change another person, so don’t waste your time and energy trying.
• Let go of the old to make space for the new
• Face what has happened, accept that you can’t change it, then move on.
• Don’t take yourself too seriously; be okay with making mistakes.
• Do what scares you. Fear holds us back. Find your voice. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
• Remember: worry about the future is like a prayer for what you do NOT want.
• Use meditation or yoga to bring you into the present moment - deep breathing aids letting go.
• Make a list of your accomplishments—even the small ones.
• Give yourself space to vent, then let go and move on.
• Laughing and having fun is a great way to support to letting go.
In addition to these techniques, you might create some rituals such as writing everything you want to express in a letter. Even if you choose not to send it, clarifying your feelings will help you come to terms with reality as it is. Write down all you want to let go of, then burn the letter.
You could imagine your life ten years from now; visualise what will be important then and whether holding on to what you are attached to now, will still serve you.
Your home is an outward expression of how you are feeling on the inside about your life and relationships. If your home is filled with items from your past you may be holding on to feelings of being stuck in the past. So, clear out the old to make space for the new. Just keep asking yourself, “Do I need it, use it, and love it?”
If the answer is no, let it go.
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