Our parenting expert Anna Cole had some beautiful words of wisdom for new parents in the Autumn 2020 issue. Today, we wanted to share a sneak peek of her article. To read the full article, grab your copy of the Autumn 2020 issue, or subscribe here to receive one direct to your door.
For every new mum and dad
by Anna Cole
No matter how many books you read, or how many people you talk to, holding your new baby in your arms is a life-changing moment. Depending on the birth experience you have, you may be elated or you may be exhausted. You may crest highs you’ve never known, or you may feel bleaker than the darkest thunder storm.
As you embark on this new journey and begin to adjusting to a new schedule, the questions are many. Am I doing this right? Should I feed her or bathe her? Should she be feeding or sleeping? Are we bonding? Should I feel this confused?
The questions may go deeper. How do I want to raise this child? What are my beliefs and how do they differ from my parents’ beliefs? Who can help me in this? Sometimes, the questions can get desperate. When can I take a shower? Will I ever sleep again?
And they rarely stop. Soon you may question how to help your child sleep alone, how best to respond to him when he cries, when you should respond, and how often. When to begin weaning, and how to introduce solids? The decision-making can seem endless and overwhelming, but it comes from the most sacred place there is: Love.
Ultimately, these questions boil down to one question: Am I giving the best to my child?
And I have an answer. You are mama. You are Papa. You are there. You care.