Tantra educator and writer Dawn Cartwright is one of our much-loved regular contributors. We previously published a sneak peek of her Spring 2021 article, ‘Imagine Orgasm,’ to our website, and today, we’re sharing the whole thing. Enjoy!
We adore the reflections provided by our regular columnist and Tantra expert, Dawn Cartwright. Her Spring 2021 article was beautiful, as always – she spoke about the powerful link between orgasm and the imagination. Read a sneak peek below!
The Mystery of Orgasm
Nature’s lessons in connection and pleasure.
By Dawn Cartwright
Studies done by Masters and Johnson in the early 1960s, at the height of the sexual revolution, proposed a four stage human sexual response cycle for both men and women. They outlined four phases involved: excitation, plateau, orgasmic and resolution.
The Excitation Phase
Sexual response begins. We see something we find arousing, experience physical sensation we find arousing or think an arousing thought. The heart rate increases, breathing deepens and the erogenous zones of the body begin to swell and lubricate.
The Plateau Phase
Sexual arousal reaches its peak. Muscular tension, especially in the lower body, increases. Circulation is heightened and there is a feeling of fullness in the genitals and pelvic region. Sexual pleasure reaches an almost unbearable intensity.
The Orgasmic Phase
Muscular contractions in the genitals, pelvis and lower thighs release the tension that has built up over the previous two stages. There’s a feeling of letting go, falling over the edge. Ejaculation may occur during this phase.
The Resolution Phase
The final phase is the Resolution Phase. Heart rate and breathing return to normal, breathing and a feeling of calm and even sleepiness takes over.
But we may also add the ‘Desire Phase’ to this list. Helen Singer Kaplan, Ph.D., an Austria born American sex therapist, was crowned “Sex Queen” for encouraging her clients to enjoy sex as much as possible, rather than see it as shameful or dirty and added a phase to Master and Johnson’s list in 1970. She argued that desire precedes excitement and arousal. Through her research, Kaplan found emotional factors such as stress, anxiety, defensiveness and lack of communication interfered with sexual arousal and orgasm, therefore she placed the Desire Phase first, before the Excitation Phase, in the human sexual arousal cycle.
Orgasm and Desire
Desire is a strong feeling of longing. While physical arousal may be possible without desire, desire for sex means we feel strong feelings of longing for intimate contact. Whether we are engaging sexually with ourselves, solo, or with a partner, our desire for pleasure and connection opens the door to sexual exploration. The body is naturally orgasmic. The mind, not so much. Yet, wouldn’t you know it, orgasm itself is a precision focused exchange of information between the two.
Orgasm, though mysterious, is a lot more straightforward than we’ve been led to believe. According to clinical sexologist, Amy Cooper, the whole purpose of sexual arousal is to focus our attention away from the stresses of life and onto pleasure. ‘Several body systems engage in positive feedback loops as sexual excitement increases. Each sensation or event builds on the previous ones in a response cycle that may ultimately lead to orgasm,” says Cooper
- The brain receives information about pleasure in the genitals and sends a message to the engorgement tissues to activate, creating more pleasure in the genitals.
- During the excitation phase of arousal, subtle contractions in the pelvis heighten sensation in the genitals, focusing the mind on pleasure and away from distracting thoughts.
- Hormones released during sexual arousal affect the type of information the brain receives, keeping the brain focused on sex.
Orgasm is nature’s way of keeping us focused on pleasure and connection. When we look at orgasm and sexual response more closely, we see a sustainable, positive, self-generated vitality circuit. It’s a state of mind as well as a phase in the sexual response cycle. In fact, this ecstatic state may be how we’re meant to experience the world and each other, even when we’re not having sex.
Dawn Cartwright is a Tantric visionary, sacred writer, and innovator in bio-energetic Tantra fusion.
Breathe Into Bliss
The Tantric Route to Full Body Orgasm
By Mick Sawtell
Heartfelt love-making and deep orgasmic states are gifts within each of us – we all carry an infinite capacity for pleasure and orgasm, but often through difficult experiences in childhood or in our relationships these natural feelings can become repressed and we may feel numb or cut off from them.
In my Tantra massage and healing sessions, creating a safe space, where there is no judgement or pressure is extremely important as clients rediscover their full orgasmic potential and I am often struck by the joy and gratitude expressed as a person experiences a full-body orgasm, often for the first time. It is such a privilege for me to help a person discover this beautiful and rich experience.
In a full body orgasm, not only is physical and emotional stress released but the feelings of love, bliss and compassion that arise bring about a profound sense of fulfilment and a more heartfelt appreciation of life and our partner. The secret lies ultimately in surrender and very deep relaxation and ‘letting go’ as the sexual feelings build up. We can learn how to breathe more deeply and consciously, feeling an internal awareness which fills the whole body .
Surrender to this energy and breathe up into the heart whilst letting go of the urge to climax then continue to ‘let go’ as subtle & exquisite waves of ecstasy wash throughout the whole body. You can cultivate this with your partner too. Imagine the beauty as both partners experience this and then together melt into orgasmic bliss and discover a renewed interest in love-making and each other!