Our regular parenting correspondent, Anna Cole, wrote a thoughtful piece on the deeper motivation behind children’s honesty (or lack thereof) for our Autumn issue. Read it below!
Truth
We introduced a new feature into our magazine for the Autumn 2021 issue: Teen Spirit, written by the talented Margot Tubbiolo. She shared a powerful piece on what it means to fearlessly speak your truth, regardless of what age you are.
We are delighted to announce the details of this special Positive Nights event: an evening with the renowned psychologist, mentor and public speaker Hema Vyas. This event will take place on Thursday January 21st, 2021 at 7.30 p.m. Irish and British time (GMT zone). If you live outside of the GMT zone, do check what time this will be in your local time zone, and email us at positivelifeevents@gmail.com if you have any questions. This is an online event which will take place over Zoom. Link and login details will be emailed to all ticket holders the day before the event – check your spam folder if it doesn’t arrive, and contact us if it isn’t there. A replay will be sent out the following morning, so don’t worry if you can’t make it live.
Our event with Hema will be an open-hearted inquiry into the truth of this time and the ‘expansive secrets’ to the universe, or eternal truths, that allow us to create a new way forward.
When you recognise illusions for what they are, return to eternal truths, and learn how to embody and internalise them, everything changes.
Hema’s intention is to take you on a journey from the dense space of mistruths, to unlocking the expansive secrets that can change your life in an instant at this pivotal time in our history. Truth has a powerful resonance that cuts through fear.
Book your place here.
About Hema
Hema Vyas is a renowned speaker on the subjects of heart wisdom, human consciousness, spirituality, health, energy medicine and the science of Ayurveda. For almost thirty years, she has been practising as a psychologist and life leadership mentor.
Hema’s work is about connecting to timeless wisdom to solve the problems of modern times, especially by understanding the significance of the heart. She comes from a long lineage of Ayurvedic doctors, also known as Vaidayas. Her sophisticated intuitive abilities and expertise at guiding a direct experience of heart energy have led those affected by her work to describe her as a modern-day seer. Her approach synthesises psychological and spiritual insights with Gyana yoga and meditation, as she sees first-hand how these practices have the power to bring about sustained and unprecedented positive change.
Hema leads international retreats which are fully immersive, as well as workshops and events that align and restore the heart, mind, and body. Her signature Heart Renaissance, Path to Prosperity experience in Kerala (the home of Ayurveda) celebrated its 10th anniversary in January 2020. In 2019, she was the keynote speaker at the Conscious Living and Working Conference in Dublin. She also led a Heart Wisdom workshop series at London’s Soho House, and gave talks at The Conduit and The Design Centre at Chelsea Harbour, London. She was asked to speak at the Dubai Future Foundation in the UAE, and guided a Prosperity Consciousness workshop at the UK’s Mind, Body, Spirit, Wellbeing Festival. More recently, she guided live and virtual workshops for Bamford, and gave talks at The Credibility Nation Summit and Global Women’s Voice.
Our event with Hema will take place on Thursday January 21st, 2021 at 7.30 p.m. Irish and British time (GMT zone). If you live outside of the GMT zone, do check what time this will be in your local time zone, and email us at positivelifeevents@gmail.com if you have any questions. This is an online event which will take place over Zoom. Link and login details will be emailed to all ticket holders the day before the event – check your spam folder if it doesn’t arrive, and contact us if it isn’t there. A replay will be sent out the following morning, so don’t worry if you can’t make it live.
Book your place here.
Feedback from people who have worked with Hema
“Hema offers you an unwavering mirror of truth. She has the inner knowing, pure wisdom of the soul to know what is needed…she sees everything, and the truth that sets you straight…she sees so clearly, she is a Rishi, a deep seer.”
– Caroline Kippler, Project Leader, UK Parliamentary Service
“She is so insightful it is extraordinary…Hema has the ability to change your life in one session. She cuts straight to the heart of the matter, dispensing wisdom that pulls you up short and helps you understand everything clearly.”
– Mary O’Hagan, Owner, Vivace Virtual Events
“Thank you for teaching me that there is more to the heart that I had previously thought, it is nothing short of paradigm shift. While many people teach to think outside the box, you have taught me to get rid of the box. I know I will be buzzing for the next couple of days or even weeks. I can’t wait to put what I have learnt into practice.”
– Alexandra Ofr, Student
“She was so engaging, it was one of the best keynote presentations I’ve ever seen. I actually feel empowered as a person and really connected. Normally other speakers don’t have this effect on me. If you’re looking for someone to really help you or your organisation to get in touch with their own emotions and feelings, with their own heart and their ‘power within’ Hema is definitely recommended.”
– Michael Diederich, Event Host
We are delighted to announce the details of this special Positive Nights event: an evening with the renowned psychologist, mentor and public speaker Hema Vyas. This event will take place on Thursday January 21st, 2021 at 7.30 p.m. Irish and British time (GMT zone). If you live outside of the GMT zone, do check what time this will be in your local time zone, and email us at positivelifeevents@gmail.com if you have any questions.
In our new Autumn 2020 issue, our meditation expert Sandy Newbigging provided us with a great reflection on the challenges and gifts of being a truth seeker. Enjoy a sneak peek below! To read the full article, grab your copy of the Autumn 2020 issue, or subscribe here to receive one direct to your door.
We are thrilled to announce that Trinity Vision Seeker (formerly known as White Elk), a gifted grandmother/ healer from the Cree/Salteaux Nation,will visit us for a special evening of love, truth and wisdom on Thursday October 18th, from 7.30 to 9.30 p.m. in the Central Hotel, 1-5 Exchequer Street, Dublin 2.
The topics that Trinity Vision Seeker will cover during this event include:
An Inner knowing: only you know what that vibration represents to Soul
Truth: your inner voice can change the energy within moments
Hearing your messengers from the Other Side of the Veil … do you trust them?
Guidance is key to all you do in this physical world of lessons
Circles beyond circles: what ripple of energy are you creating?
Core: is it your belief system, or is it something deeper that is connected to the universe?
Trinity: the symbol of Love, Peace, Balance – the connections that are weaved through time.
Join us for a truly consciousness-expanding evening! To book your tickets, click here.
After her evening with us, Trinity Vision Seeker will be leading an inspirational workshop with fellow teacher and healer, Unity Star, on the 20th and 21st of October in Oranmore, Co. Galway, followed by one-day workshops in Northern Ireland on October 27th and Co. Waterford on October 28th. For all details, just click here.
In a world where it can sometimes be difficult to stand in our power and be assertive, Dawn Cartwright offers her advice on how we can clearly communicate ‘our true ‘yes’ and our honest ‘no”. This article appears in our Autumn 2018 issue – to pick up a copy, just check your nearest stockist or subscribe to the magazine today.
The Art of Assertiveness
When to say yes and how to say no
by Dawn Cartwright
According to researchers at Cornell University, we make 35,000 conscious decisions each day. That’s thirty-five thousand opportunities every single day to move closer to, or farther away from, our dreams. Our decisions create our future. The clearer we are about when to say ‘yes’ and how to say ‘no’, the more likely we are to be true to ourselves and create a life that reflects who we are.
In a world where there’s pressure to conform and fit in, decisions are often made based on expectations, rather than the truth we feel inside. We lose ourselves. We slide into accommodating others because it seems easier. We avoid the less familiar emotions, and the closeness and bonding that comes from facing and working through them, to maintain an illusion of peace. We feel our true ‘yes’ and our honest ‘no’ and we second guess them, or push them aside. Yet we long to be intimate. We long to be accepted. We long to be loved as we truly are.
How do we get in touch with our innermost feelings and thoughts? What does it mean to be someone who says ‘yes’ and ‘no’ honestly? How do we express ourselves truthfully, with kindness? How do we create a life filled with possibility, intimacy and freedom? How do we become who we are capable of being?
In 1943 Abraham Maslow introduced Positive Psychology, the scientific study of the positive and elevating aspects of human behaviour. Maslow believed that every human being has a strong desire to realise their full potential, to be who they are capable of being. He created a model called Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, providing a map to becoming who we truly are. This map is useful in our quest to know when to say yes and how to say no.
When To Say Yes
- The Basics: Do you have shelter? Clothing? Food? Clean water? Are you meeting your sexual needs? If not, the stress of these unmet needs will interfere with your inner compass. Meet these needs and you’ll create a strong foundation. You’ll begin to recognise when you’re saying ‘yes’ because you’re depleted, cold, tired, hungry, thirsty or sexually unfulfilled, and when you’re saying yes because yes is what you truly feel.
- Safety: Our vigilant brain is the part of the brain that registers a threat and prompts us to say ‘yes’ to keep us from harm. Human beings have a natural desire for a predictable, orderly world. Having a daily routine like a morning walk or an evening meditation is a great way to create stability. Meet these needs and your ‘yes’ will be grounded in safety.
- Belonging: Humans are tribal beings. The need for togetherness is probably one of the most important and least met needs in the world today. Create healthy friendships. Engage in group activities that are meaningful to you. Meet this need and your yes will no longer come from a fear of being abandoned. Instead, yes will boost your feeling of belonging.
- Self-Esteem: A healthy sense of self is essential to being and becoming who we’re meant to be. When our self-esteem is low, we say ‘yes’ to gain approval. When self-esteem is high, we align with our core values no matter what. Know your core values, make a list.
- The Peak: Be truly you. That’s when your yes to others matches the yes you feel inside.
How To Say No
- The Basics: Fill your own cup. If you’ve had enough sleep, food, water and sex, chances are you’ll be more in touch with your natural generosity. You’ll be alert, relaxed, open and present, this in itself is a gift. Turn toward the person you’re saying no to, put both feet on the ground, relax your body, feel your generosity and say ‘no’.
- Safety: Pace yourself. Create a pace in all your relationships that makes it possible for you to maintain connection with yourself and with the other. Create emotional stability and safety for yourself and this will translate as emotional stability and safety for the other when you say ‘no’.
- Belonging: Be tribal. When we’re afraid to say no, we disappear and abandon the other person emotionally. Stay connected to your own heart. Stay emotionally connected to the other. Build a bridge of togetherness when you say ‘no’.
- Self-Esteem: Share your values. Believe in yourself. Believe in the other person. You are resilient! They are resilient! Self-acceptance makes you trustable and compassionate. Open your heart, be respectful, say ‘no’.
- The Peak: You are incredibly you. When you have fulfilled all your needs and you are consistently being and becoming who you are meant to be, your no is as positive as your yes.
Dawn Cartwright is a Tantric visionary, sacred writer, world traveler, and innovator in bio-energetic Tantra fusion. You’re invited to join her in 2019 for The Red Tent: Women’s Sacred Sexuality, April 12th – 14th, Be Fully Alive: Level 1 Tantra Immersion, April 26th – 28th, in the Wicklow Mountains and Weaving the Beloveds: Couples Tantra Retreat, May 3rd – 6th, in Lower Rosses, Sligo.