The Spark

by Dawn Cartwright

Our winter issue is out now. Regular contributor and Neo-Tantra visionary Dawn Cartwright reveals how to ignite the Spark we all crave, within ourselves and our relationships. Dive on in to find out more…

The Spark

When The Chemistry Is Just Right

by Dawn Cartwright


Recent studies have shown the egg is not passive in conception. She reaches out for the one sperm that penetrates her vitelline layer.

Together, they create a bridge, cone-like in structure, a portal. This cone is called the cone of attraction, or the receptive cone.

At this moment, the egg matures. The sperm’s tail falls away. They become female and male pronuclei.

The essence of the feminine. The essence of the masculine.

Membranes dissolve, leaving no barriers between them.

A spark of light is emitted as conception occurs.

And the magic that is you begins to unfold.

Reaching out. Penetrating. Portal. Attraction. Receptive. Maturity. Falls away. Essence. Membranes dissolve. No barriers.

The Spark

Is this the same spark we feel when the chemistry is just right? The one we feel when we first meet, the one we long to
rekindle once it’s gone?

Reaching out. Penetrating. Portal. Attraction. Receptive. Maturity. Falls away. Essence. Membranes dissolve. No barriers.

In the Yoga and Tantra traditions there are sheaths that surround atman, the Self. Like the membranes surrounding the egg and the sperm, these sheaths, known as koshas, are activated as we grow and evolve, revealing the light at the centre.

The unending beginning of you.

Sex is like that. The spark is like that. Activating layers of you until the purest, most you, is revealed.

The spark isn’t something you search for. It’s something that exists, already, within.

Annamaya Kosha: Touch, Sensuality and Pleasure

The outermost sheath surrounding the Self is Annamaya Kosha, the physical sheath. The spark, embodied. Touch, sensuality and pleasure.

Ignite the Spark: Give yourself some love. First, get in the mood with a swim in the sea, singing at the top of your lungs, dancing wildly. Wake up your body, get expressive. Unleash joy and dive in for pleasure.

Touch and explore and pleasure your whole body. Stretch and curl and twist and move, expand the pleasure into every part of you. Breathe, laugh, growl. The more physical, the better.

Feel the spark take over your body.

Pranamaya Kosha: Arousal, Excitement and Orgasm

Moving toward the centre, the next sheath is Pranamaya Kosha, the energy body. The spark is energy. Arousal, excitement and orgasm.

Ignite the Spark: Get curious about the realities of your sexual arousal, breathe into the excitement, all the way to the very edges of it, what do you discover?

Take your sex in your hands and breathe the breath the full expanse of the upward touch. Exhale the full expanse of the downward touch. Tune in to orgasm and realise it’s an energy you can include, without going over the edge. Sink into the pleasure as it grows.

The spark ignites your energy.

Manomaya Kosha: Thoughts, Dreams, Desires and Emotions

Manomaya Kosha is the mental body. The spark is the mind. Thoughts, dreams, desires and emotions.

Ignite the Spark: How do you like to be made love to? You’ll want to have a pen and paper for this one. Draw a line
down the middle of the page. On one side, list all the beliefs you have and have ever had about sex, pleasure and orgasm. Then, melt into your body. Ground down into your sexual energy and feel your desire – not your thoughts about desire – the emotions, the sensations, the experiences you long for. Then, on the other side of the paper, list all your sexual desires. Don’t hold back.

Beliefs are thoughts you’ve gathered from others. Desires are your own.

Desire ignites the spark.

Vijnanamaya Kosha: Wisdom, Inner Knowing and Connection

The next kosha, Vijnanamaya Kosha, the wisdom sheath. The spark is awareness. Wisdom, inner knowing and connection.

Ignite the Spark: Sit facing your lover. Set a gentle alarm for 10 minutes. This meditation is about being aware of your sexual energy, as it is, moment to moment. When you both feel ready, you will share, then your lover, taking turns,
until the alarm sounds.

It’s important not to overthink this. Don’t try to come up with the perfect statement or something profound. Keep it simple, direct, immediate.

It goes something like this . . . Partner 1: “I’m aware of warmth in my sex.” Partner 2: “I’m aware of a feeling of vacantness in my sex.” Partner 1: “I’m aware of a pulsing, deep in my vulva.” Partner 2: “I’m aware of a feeling of sexual intensity that has a lid on it.” . . . until the alarm sounds.

The spark lives in your awareness.

Anandamaya Kosha: Sat-Chit-Ananda

Anandamaya Kosha, the bliss body, is the final membrane surrounding the atman. The spark is bliss. Truth, wisdom, bliss.

Ignite the Spark: Close your eyes and let go of thinking, just for a moment. And another moment. And another.

Settle into the stillness, then, slowly allow yourself to become it.

The spark dissolves into bliss.

Atman: The Self

The spark is You. Pure light. Pure love. First Step


Dawn Cartwright is a Neo-Tantra visionary, sacred writer, world traveler, and innovator in Self-Actualization Neo-Tantra fusion.

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